Telling a Child What to Do and How to Behave will Often Backfire on You

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The most effective way to get someone to do something, especially children, it to model the desired behavior. Nobody likes to be lectured to or be constantly told what to do. Lecturing will quickly send children in the opposite direction.

Model healthy interactions with your spouse and other adults. Always speak lovingly and respectfully.

Save shouting for safety only.

To teach your children manners say it for them rather than asking them to use the “Magic Word”. As you serve say, “Thank you Mama!” When your child demands service say, “May I have some juice please Papa?”

Or, try using non-verbal signals. Decide with your children what the hand signal will be when they have asked for service inappropriately. Use the hand signal, such as touching your lips with your index finger, every time they demand service.

Maria Montessori has shown us that modeling appropriate behavior is particularly critical during a child’s first six year of life, because children enter the Absorbent Mind developmental phase. A child’s mind acts like a sponge, integrating everything accurately, nonjudmentally, uncritically and effortlessly.

During the approximate ages of 2 1/5 to five years, children enter the Sensitive Period for Social Development phase. A child explores and absorbs group and social behavior. Due to this sensitivity, a child needs to have modeled acceptable social behavior at home and in a positive school setting.

The late guru, Rudolph Dreikurs, teaches us to teach and model mutual respect. Be kind and firm at the same time. Kind to show respect for your child, firm to show respect for yourself and the needs of the situation. This is difficult!

Ask, Tell, Respond, Act:

Ask first: “Please put your activity away.” Back off and wait. If needed:

Tell once: “This goes right here.” Hand her the toy and pat the shelf.

Respond: “OK Mama, I’m putting it away!.” (Say if for her.) If needed:

Act: “Let’s do it together!” Do it with joy! (Even if she doesn’t help.)

Teach and model that mistakes are great opportunities to learn:

Clean up your messes:

1. Own your part: “Wow, I just made a mistake!”

2. Apologize: “I apologize for_____. (Be specific)”

3. Commit: “The next time I will do _____ instead.”

4. Amends: “To make it up to you I will do _____ for/with you.”

When you want to make your child do something you are in a power struggle. Say “Oops, I’m trying to get my way, I’m going to go do something to help myself feel better.”

Children express what we repress. When your child acts up, look inside yourself first. Clean up your act, resolve your feelings, mend fences.

Study in Singapore

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For students looking forward to study abroad, Singapore is the ultimate destination. Encompassing a wide array of religions, the nation has diverse cultural districts speckled all over it, which in turn adds value to the rich culture of Singapore. The country boasts of having courses that are very popular among a large majority of international students belonging to countries like India, Vietnam, Malaysia, China, and Indonesia. For Study in Singapore, student should full fill are the requirements of eligibility.

Over the past few years, the nation has developed from its traditional British-based education scheme to the system that is absolutely competent to meet the needs of individuals and aims to encourage talents.

The potential of Singapores learning system lies in its bilingual policy (English and Mandarin) and a comprehensive study program proffering the immense significance to innovation and entrepreneurship. After pursuing these constructive courses, students attain relevant skills to make a steady position in the highly competitive environments, promising a bright future.

The Ministry of Education manages the university and school education in Singapore. The ministry has extensive rights to direct the learning policies, control the management and development of state schools in Singapore. In addition, it also has a managerial and consultative role in the private schools of Singapore. When it comes to the number of universities available in Singapore, the country has four main universities, out of which two are public universities and the other two are private universities. Education Programs

The Singapore universities and other higher learning foundations gladly accept students from almost every part of the globe. For getting an admission into an undergraduate program, the international students are required to clear an assessment test after the successful completion of the bridge program. A bridge program is a higher learning program specially planned to help a student having an initial educational level. The program assists the student in achieving a higher degree in the same field of study in a short span of time than an entry-level student would need.

As far as the duration of postgraduate courses is concerned, a post graduate course usually lasts for two years, but sometimes it can be completed even within one year, depending upon the nature of the program. A postgraduate course offered by the Singapore universities can be enormously useful in getting a job in the international market, particularly in the fields of arts, technology, and science.

Apart from these programs, the universities in Singapore also offer PhD degree programs. They are basically the third-level degree courses in the Singapore education system.

Basic Entry Requirements

To get an admission into a Bachelors degree program, a student needs to attach authentic copies of certificates. And for getting an admission into a Masters degree program, international students are required to have a four-year Bachelors degree. Students willing to pursue PhD programs in Singapore need to have a Master’s degree in the subject area.

Simple Ways To Feel Great During Pregnancy Eating Well And Maternity Lingerie

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Plus, pregnancy forums and testimonials from other expecting mums about thick, shiny hair, perfect nails and glowing skin can leave you feeling abnormal if you fancy nothing more than crawling under the covers and hiding from the world.

While some mums enjoy their pregnancies from day one, others battle with nausea and morning sickness the moment they find out they are expecting.

If your pregnancy has left you feeling absolutely shattered, you are not alone! Many women report feelings of extreme fatigue and even depression during pregnancy, especially during the first trimester.

Put your mind at ease and drop those worries by enjoying your own unique journey to motherhood. There are simple things you can do to fight fatigue and feel fantastic during pregnancy, putting you back on track to physical and mental wellbeing.

Nourish your mind and body!

A healthy diet can energise you and provide you with much-needed nutrients as your bump grows. While you can enjoy sweets, treats and indulge your cravings, remember that junk food actually reduces energy levels. You dont necessarily need to eat for two until much later in your pregnancy. Even then youll only require about 200-300 extra calories per day, from nutritious foods.

Remember that eating your five servings of fruit and veg is easier than you might think. According to the National Health Service fresh, frozen and canned fruits and vegetables count towards your total, as do dried fruit, cooked vegetables in soups, pastas and stews. Fruit juice, beans and pulses, and smoothies also count up to one or two servings.

Potatoes are classified as a starchy food and dont count as a vegetable, but you can enjoy sweet potatoes, parsnips and turnips.

Just two spears of broccoli or four heaped tablespoons of green beans, kale, spinach or spring beans count as a serving of vegetables. Servings of fruits include two small-sized fresh fruits or one medium fruit such as an apple or a banana.

Do something for you!

Maternity is your time to shine. If youre feeling less than vibrant, something as simple as a new outfit can completely change your outlook.

For a glow that emanates from under wraps, shop for maternity underwear to celebrate your new curves. Amoralia offers a range of maternity underwear including beautiful nursing bras that can be worn during pregnancy and beyond, pretty, comfortable knickers, slinky camis and silky pyjama sets.

A visit to the beauty salon or Spa can change also boost your spirits and make you feel more like yourself. Indulge in a new hairstyle or pre-natal massage to soothe tired muscles and improve circulation.

Enjoy your pregnancy by celebrating this new phase in your life- whether you felt instantly fabulous or need a little help along the way.

Factors for Chances of Getting Pregnant – Tubal Ligation Reversal

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Many times women have their tubes tied after having what they believe to be their last child. Due to life circumstances changing, such as a second marriage, many women later realize that they are not finished having children after all. When this happens, the question of having a tubal ligation reversal often comes up. The question that follows is often what are the chances of getting pregnant after this reversal procedure?

After a recent 8 year study on this particular topic, researchers have found that the success rate of the tubal ligation reversal procedure depends on three major factors. The first factor is the age of the patient at the time of the procedure being reversed. Just as with the general population, the rate of miscarriage increases with age.

The second factor that played a large role in the chances of getting pregnant was the method used in the original tubal ligation. For women who have had their tubes tied using tubal clips, there was a 75% chance that they would have a successful chance of getting pregnant after reversal surgery. For those who had a tubal ligation using tubal rings, there was a 72% chance of successfully getting pregnant.

As for other types of sterilization, the rates went down for women who had a resection or coagulation during their original surgery. Researchers believe this is because using the clip or the ring method only causes minimal damage to the fallopian tubes which is easier to repair and which leaves longer tubes which leads to our third factor.

The third factor that determines whether a woman will have better chances of getting pregnant after a tubal ligation reversal procedure is how long her tubes are. Depending on how the doctor handled the original tubal surgery, a woman may have tubes ranging in length from 7 1/2 cm to less than two and half centimeters.

The longer the tubes, the better the chances are for a woman to get pregnant. For example, women who had an average fallopian tube length 7 1/2 cm or longer have a 77% chance of getting pregnant. For women who had shorter tubal lengths of less than 2.5 cm, the rate of pregnancy decreased but was still a respectable 38%.

In fact, the doctors collecting the data for this study became aware that getting pregnant with one tube and even as short as 1 cm can still happen. This should lead to the conclusion that any woman wanting a tubal ligation reversal will find her chances of getting pregnant are good although they may vary greatly depending upon the above factors.

Discuss your chances of getting pregnant with a FREE consultation with the Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center where the tubal ligation reversal study on over 5000 women was conducted over eight years. Visit the message board at

Mother Shipton and the End of London

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Born in 1488 as Ursula Southeil, Mother Shipton came to be known as one of the most famous soothsayers in history. She was born in a cave in Knaresborough, Yorkshire and was said to been absolutely hideous to look at, but apparently had a knack for prophesy. She told fortunes for the locals, while on the side writing her predictions about the world at large.

While the majority of her predictions dealt with local and regional issues, her flair for the dramatic was best illustrated in her predictions about London. Her work came out in two publications, both nearly 60 years after her death in 1561.

She like other clairvoyants line Edgar Cayce and Maria Taigi, predicted great world changes in the years to come. She made general prediction centered on her region of the country but also had words for the greater world around her. Hers was one of the first well-documented cases of prediction, which included a vision for things inconceivable in her time. She predicted electronic communication, motorized vehicles, and tunnels that went through entire mountains, transportation under water. She also predicted that men would fly, cruise around the world in Iron Ships and that great discoveries of gold would be made in countries not yet discovered.

Her most famous prediction it is told, mentioned the Great Fire of London, which occurred inside the walls of the medieval roman cities and nearly burned the entire city to the ground. Samuel Pepys, a Member of Parliament and Naval administrator noted that when the great fire occurred, Mother Shipton had been the one to accurately foretell it. Her last prediction concerning the end of the world was that London would no longer exist prior to it.

So, those of you who wish to see the great city before it disappears can stay in any number of Mayfair hotels to make a comfortable, luxury home base from which to see the amazing city before its too late. London hotels can provide all manner of tourist information to help you organize your trip throughout London and direct you to sites of interest fitting of your budget.

Study Guides – Are They Helpful

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Have you ever purchased a study guide that promises to teach you the the great and amazing study secret that no one has ever heard of? In most cases, this type of hype does not carry any real content or any fulfillment to the many promises they make. Hence, It will be my intention today to try to guide you on how to find out the real study techniques that lead to success in your studies. First of all, let me start out by this premise:

There are no real short cuts or secrets to gaining knowledge, it’s a matter of hard word and patience. Hence the saying: Patience might be sour but its result is sweet. Although there are no (or very few) real study secrets, there do exist certain study techniques that will make your studying a whole lot easier and even more effective. As you yourself might know, there are numerous ways of studying and I can’t compel you to choice a certain way that doesn’t fit you, hence I strongly urge you to do the following:

No matter how you learn the best (by visual experience, kinetic etc) make sure that you do not change horses in midstream concerning the way you learn, ie do not flip flop between different learning approaches. This will inevitable confuse you and may even worsen your study results in the long run. Remember that studying a small amount of information each day on a long time period is several times better than studying an immense amount of information over a short time frame. Contingency is a vital component in your studies, never forget that!

This article was not written in order to spell out all the thousands of different study techniques found under the sun but in the hope of making you realize that one can systemize the way one studies and that this change really can make a difference. Therefore, I urge you once again to sit down and reflect for a moment; how do you learn the best? Be sure to write down your answers and review them with your self and see if you can make any general conclusions, you might be stunned to see that you might have had a bad approach for too long.

Adult Siblings Caring For Elderly Parents

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For adult siblings who find themselves caring for their elderly parents, whether as hands on caregivers or by finding the proper outside medical team, having these positions can cause a lot of stress and conflict. Brothers and sisters might have different ideas about how to care for mom or dad and might not have the patience or the skills for compromise or proper communication among themselves. There might be one particular sibling who acts as a leader but can push their ideas too strongly onto their siblings. Another cause of conflict is when one sibling feels like they are providing most or all of the care and feel resentment towards the siblings they feel are not doing their fair share. This sibling is usually the one who lives closest to the elderly parents.

Sometimes being put into the position of caregiver can bring up many years of arguments and hurt feelings. In some families, mom or dad might have had a favorite child, and the other siblings might still resent that child and believe they should take on the bulk of the parental care.

Other topics that can induce stress onto families include:

1.Illness family members might have to make decisions about long term care or treatments for illness or disease

2.Finances adult siblings might have to provide some financial assistance to their parents, which can be very uncomfortable if the siblings have different financial situations themselves (i.e. the rich sibling will be expected to pay more)

3.Inheritances on the flip side, wealthy families might have to contend with inheritance issues including prior knowledge of uneven distributions from the will or estate.

Even adult siblings who have good relationships with each other should be prepared for added stress when caring for their elderly parents. One of the best ways to deal with this stress is to address issues as they arise and not let any resentment or tension build into a boiling point. Outside counseling or guidance from a social worker can help ease these tensions and make the whole family, including mom and dad, happy.

Reasons Your Children Should Learn To Do Puzzles

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Every parent strives to provide the best environment for their children so they grow up to become educated, intelligent adults. The things you teach your children at a very young age have the most impact on their learning abilities for the rest of their lives.

In addition to letting your children play outside, read and socialize with other children, there are many things you can do to help your children develop the skills they need to execute simple actions (like hand-eye coordination and motor skills).

Puzzles are a great way to stimulate a childs brain and help develop some of the most important skills theyll need for the future not to mention, theyre a lot of fun.

Below, weve listed 3 reasons why every parent should teach their children how to complete puzzles.

1.Hand-Eye Coordination. As we mentioned briefly above, many puzzles aid in developing a childs hand eye coordination. Its very difficult for a young child to pick up a piece of a puzzle, turn it in the proper direction and place it where it belongs in the puzzle. The more they practice, the more it becomes second nature to them and, before you know it, your childs hand-eye coordination is functioning fully. Start with shape puzzles (the ones where the child has to put the shapes into the corresponding holes) at a very young age and work your way up to harder levels as they progress.

2.Problem Solving Skills. Puzzles are a great way to teach children how to overcome problems. Many children become frustrated when trying to complete puzzles but the more they do them, the less frustrated they become. The child begins to realize the importance of working through their difficulties and learns how to cope with frustration. When theyve completed the puzzle, theyll be happy and will likely want to try another. This is an invaluable lesson to children.

3.Memory Skills. Puzzles are a proven method of stimulating a childs memory. There are many types of puzzles designed specifically to help develop a childs memory. If you cant find the right type of puzzle at the store, there are simple ways to teach your children how to remember. Grab a deck of cards and sort through them until you find 5 pairs. Flip the 10 cards over and ask your child to pick up the cards one at a time to try and find a pair. If they flip over two cards and that dont match, they must flip the cards facedown and try again. This will help immensely when it comes to your childs memory skills. As it becomes easier, keep adding more cards to make it difficult and keep them challenged.

Puzzles are an easy, fun and affordable way to keep your children occupied and learning at the same time. We hope you enjoy the information weve provided!

Tips To Decide On The Appropriate Childrens Clothes

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Shopping for childrens clothes can be fun but at the same time time-consuming because of the availability of many types of options in the stores. The other fact is that children grow up very fast making it more difficult to find the most appropriate clothing for them. The following tips will act as a guideline to the parents and guardians when it comes to selecting various types of clothing for their kids.

Because the kids play a lot it is important that when selecting everyday clothes, the buyers should select clothes that can be easily worn. They should come with the right type of structure to make it easy to put on or remove as desired. The buyers should also ensure that they stay away from those clothes that stick to the body as this will make it hard to wear and at the same time limit the freedom of the child when they are playing.

The other important thing is to determine the comfort of the child. This means that the consumers should ensure that the type of fabric that makes the child very comfortable. There are various types of fabrics from lace to satin but not all of them are safe for the young ones and therefore the consumers are advised to opt for the soft cottons that are recommended for summer because of their comfort. They are also advised to select fleece or woolen for winter to keep the child not only comfortable but also warm. To ensure safety, it is recommended that the buyers opt for those that have zippers and not buttons when it comes to buying infants or toddlers clothes. Kids usually swallow the buttons and this has a lot of consequences. They are also asked to avoid the ones that are designed with ties as they increase the risks of strangling.

The size of the children clothing is also very important. Choosing larger clothes will increases the chances of the child tripping over them thus causing accidents. Selecting those that are smaller will only work to restrict the childs activities as well as interfere with their breathing- something that is not healthy. The advantage is that many stores have wide variety of clothing sizes for the kids and the buyers will have an easier time in choosing them. The other option is to go to the stores with the child and make him or her try as many clothes as possible in order to find the right one for them.

The increasing number of manufacturers and stores for children clothing has cause a wide range of prices for them. This provides many buyers a chance to select the ones that are within their budgets. The users have the option of selecting brick and mortar stores or online stores for all their shopping needs as they will get assorted clothes at different price tags. They can compare a variety order to find the ones that fit their budget

Covers Making the Best Choice with Children Bed

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Decorating a childs room is always an exciting time for all involved and can mean a great deal to your child. Buying children bed covers to match this decoration is only the first step in making a wise decision when it comes to childrens bed linen. Although, admittedly it is important for your child if their bedding matches everything in their room, they may fail to look at things like allergens and comfort when choosing which children bed covers to buy. This is where you, as the adult in the situation will have to lay down some ground rules. But what factors do you really need to keep in mind when buying bed linen?

Take into account that the most likely person to have to clean these children bed covers is going to be you. Now, while cottons are sometimes more difficult to get clean when compared to man-made fibers, the extra life span of the material is well worth the effort. Cotton is very resilient and can withstand a lot of rough and tumble from your kids while also being extremely absorbent, so it can save any accidents during the night causing extra damage to the mattress and the duvet.

Cotton also has the extra feature of being extremely breathable which will allow your child to remain far more comfortable during the night. If you decide you really want to push the boat out you, should look at getting children bed covers that are not only cotton, but also have a high thread count. The higher the thread count, the more comfortable the material tends to be. This is actually why hotel bedding is so comfortable and makes you want to spend all day in bed.

In the end, the comfort of your child should always be your top priority, and as such making sure that you purchase a top quality set of children bed covers is very important. While there are huge selections of luxury bedding for children available in stores, it is well worth remembering that some of the more budget bedding options can be just as good. Remember that buying more than one set of linen is also important, as you will want to be able to make up your childs bed while the other set is being washed. A few variations will also keep your child excited about changing the bedding, and they may even start doing it themselves one day.